What are you 100 dreams? Well here is mine!!!

What are you 100 Dreams? Do you have any? What do you aspire to? This is about the importance of dreams and goals!!! But more importantly something to look forward to and to work towards

Do You have dreams?

It was only at the beginning of my minimalism journey that I realised the importance of dreams and goal setting. You see, for me having something written down keeps me accountable. And you know what it can keep you accountable too. In past years I always knew in my head what my goals for the year was and it usually revolved around travel, which place was I going to set foot onto next? And whilst that is fine, I learned that later having this written down made my trips so much more enjoyable because whilst I always had the place to go to, what to see I didn’t have written down. And what every traveller can attest to is that you might not ever get to that place again.

So as you can see below, is a picture of my 100 dreams that I wrote in February of this year. I met a very successful man who at the beginning of his journey and path to financial freedom wrote down his 100 dreams. You see, for any plan of action, goal or dream that you have, writing it down and making it visible, the importance of this cannot be quantified. This piece of paper, in the next couple of weeks will be converted into a ”dream board”. This dream board, which I mentioned in my very first blog, will be placed where my TV used to be. It will be in a place that when I get up each morning, will be the first thing I see. Each day I will stare at this board and memorize my dreams!!! By doing this each day will make me accountable and most importantly remind me why I have written down these dreams.

What my dreams are to yours, doesn’t matter, but I can’t stress enough the importance of writing them down. I’m a visual person, but it doesn’t matter what type of person you are, having something written down in front of you, reminds you, of why you do what you do!!! Now a lot of my dreams are places I want to go, for me travel is what makes me tick, but there are other things like – becoming financially free, learn french (fluently), help my parents retire in two years, motivational speaking, riding a bike with my dad. So as you can see it can be anything.

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#100 DREAMS

So what are your dreams? Write them down!!! Share them with the people closest. Ask your friends and family what are their dreams? If they don’t have any or haven’t thought about them, talk to them about it. As I tell people all the time you only get one shot at this thing called “life”. So map it out and start doing.

Why do we do the things we don’t want? But don’t do the things we want to?

“We only get one go at this”

This weeks blog is deeply personal, I am going to pour all my feelings out here. I am going through a difficult time at present. It’s a time of reassessment, validation, and contemplation. You see I am very different, and whilst everyone is different, I am even more.

I don’t conform, I question, I question a lot of things, not to be difficult, but its because I want to know the “WHY” in what we do. Whether this is work, relationships, life in general, family, etc. etc.

My Dream

See this is my dream, my dream ultimately, being 34 years of age, is to just sell up all that I own and travel, travel for as long as I can. Why? Because it is the only time I feel I can be truly me. But like most of us and my parents and their parents before us is that society does not permit this type of thinking. Because for me I don’t suit the traditional workplace, bound by an office chair, reporting to superiors, doing what they say without question.

I look outside each day and wonder why am I not out there but in here? What is my obligation? Why cant I be me? Why do I have to be someone else five days a week?

I have a mortgage, I have investment’s, and I’ve worked hard for those  and at 34 so far I have had a fantastic life. I have travelled to far away places, I have great friends an unbelievable family, so what is my issue?

My issue, is I can’t be me everyday. For five days out of seven, I have to be someone else, like the rest of us to survive I conform. So after all that I ask you these questions! Are you doing what you want to do? If not, why not? Why do you do what you don’t want to do? What’s the reason for that? Is it family, morals, upbringing, beliefs, fear, self-confidence? I know a few of them are my reasons.

I’ve struggled for sometime in seeking validation for my decisions. It’s no ones fault in particular, but I want to stop this habit. I can’t describe the feeling only that its like a “ball and chain”. I can move but not freely. So much resistance. I feel now is the time to break free from the “shackles”, live how I want to live, not conform, know that I don’t have too. Knowing there is a place in the world for everyone and that it doesn’t have to be where I am now.

So I’m a Minimilist……. What do I do NOW

So the initial shock has passed as you come home and the items that once consumed you are now gone…… NOW WHAT

That first week………

Or should I say day after i disposed of the TV and play station I must admit I said to myself WHAT NOW!!!!!

I remember lying on the couch for about 30 minutes just browsing on my phone. BUt thankfully it didnt take long to “SNAP” out of it and say to myself THIS IS NOT THE REASON I DID THIS!!!

I immediately got changed and went for an hour walk. I cleared my head and thought of ideas. Ideas of what I was going to replace my time with? Soon enough, I started to create a routine.

My Routine…. And it could be yours too

This is my routine in a round about way –

  • I get up at 5am, get changed and go for a walk in the morning. It immediately relaxes me and gets the brain going straight away. You wake up pretty quickly also as the body is moving.
  • I cook – not the quick 15 minute meals but I love dedicating the time to preparing really good food. For e.g I cooked a two kilo pork, roasted sweet potato, ‘Julien carrots, Asparagus marinated in olive oil and herbs (HUNGRY NOW?)
  • Whilst Ironing (which I unashamedly love doing LOL) I tune into my Tim Ferris podcasts at the same time.
  • Projects – Im currently finishing my ‘100 Dreams’ dream board which will fill the space where my TV was
  • THIS Blog instead of Netflix.

I think you get my point right now. I created time, time for the things I love doing (however boring to some people that may be), to be more productive with that time, and going to bed knowing that I have achieved some daily goals of mine.

It is not EASY…….

Now It may sound like I make this look easy…. ITS NOT. My biggest challenge is procrastination. I am a terrible procrastinator!!!!! But I continue to work on this over the last six months. The key has been a daily goals list, and also replacing my downtime with reading on my kindle and incorporating an activity whilst listening to a blog that I need to get done.

But my biggest achievement so far….

Is MINDSET!!!! Changing the way I think, always telling myself what I can get out of today? (Six months ago I probably would not have booked a spontaneous trip to Cairns for a weekend)

Lastly, If your’e thinking about making change, have a plan, and have a goal/s. It really is the key to your next journey. And last of all BE PATIENT, BE RESILIENT, AND STICK TO IT!!!!

Because the results are AMAZING.

Cairns I love you….. why am i going back to reality

Cairns I love you…… I dont want to leave because going back to reality sucks….. from the esplanade, the backpacker vibe, bars restaurants and the relaxed vibe this place is a winner for me

From the moment I arrived….

When I stepped foot onto the tarmac at 7.30pm Friday night I knew I was in for a great weekend. I’m sitting here at Cairns Domestic Airport pondering the thought I could easily stay here. The weather was a balmy 25 degrees with the coral sea ocean breeze immediately making a beeline towards me.

The airport and the main strip of cairns are blissfully close, only a five minute drive to the esplanade, now that’s town planning.

I checked in to my accommodation, got changed and caught the hotel courtesy bus into town. I first got the ‘bug’ to check out Cairns years ago after reading an article about the world famous “Woolshed” hotel. The backpackers are what make this place and it was the first pub I hit upon arrival for a nice “coldie” taking in the Friday vibes.

I finished my beer and headed upstairs greeted by loads of backpackers having a great time (the dance floor was packed at 9.30pm). Immediately struck up conversation with the staff who were from around the globe (USA, Spain, Canada, France, Japan, China…. the place was just a world map of fun.

I then checked out other bars such as the courtyard, PJ O’Brien’s but had a relatively early night by my standards tucked in at 11.30pm.

The Morning After….

So its Saturday and today is a day of action. The morning was spent walking the esplanade, the Pier, Shields Street etc. The Esplanade is world class, plenty to do if you bring the family with, the pools, playground and cafe next door to it. The pathway is wide and easily caters for both walkers (like me) and the bike riders. The weather was immaculate 25 degrees with a lovely sea breeze of the coral sea blowing into your face on the many park benches that are their to take the view at leisure.

The highlight for me though was the half day rain forest and waterfall tour. Went to Barron Falls, Duey National Park, Clohesy Fig Trees, Termite mounds, Surprise Falls, the list goes on. It was awesome to see the beauty on Cairns doorstep, because I realistically needed a few extra days their. There is that much to see.

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Its the vibe……

Lastly for me it was the people that made Cairns!!! Wasn’t just the locals but a lot can be said for a place that embraces everybody, and Cairns does that. Its the backpacker mecca of Australia for me. From Asia, Europe, US, South America, Africa,  New Zealand the list was endless of the different cultures and people that I met in basically two days. The atmosphere of the place was people embracing life for what it truly is.

And tha’ts why I will go back a second time. Who knows how long I will stay!!!!!

 

My path to minimalism

Welcome to my first ever blog… One of my goals this year was to have my very own blog and here it is and I’m so excited by it. Please follow my Journey throughout and I hope you get some tips from me along the way as well as the honour on blogging my own way to the World.

How it all started –

My path to sorting out the “meat from the chaff” was with the unlikeliest of people! My financial advisor.

You see I came to him for budgeting advice, by the end of it I was on a path that I hope I never go back from. He told me a story of how he and his wife gave up TV and the internet for twelve months.

In the age of Netflix, Reality TV, Foxtel, YouTube, Facebook and Instagram I thought it was a brave move. But it got me thinking as behind it had a deeper meaning. This guy and his wife had a goal, they didn’t conform to the rest of society and were hell-bent on achieving that goal without these distractions.

It worked…… He and his wife achieved the goal they had set out to achieve twelve months prior through self education via blogs, reading books and attending every relevant seminar aligned to his goal at any given moment.

Then we went to my goals……

I had to change, I had goals that I wanted to achieve but I had to ask myself… What was I prepared to do to achieve them?

I could come home after work, lay on the couch, watch Netflix or play the PlayStation, eat some dinner, iron my shirt for the next day, go to bed and repeat.

But what was I achieving??

Nothing really, only Groundhog Day 2!!! You see this conversation propelled me to make some massive changes, to go against the grain, be non-conformist and that excited me!!

That day on a Saturday afternoon in December 2017 I put my TV on facebook marketplace. Within an hour it was gone…. (Too cheaply it turned out). Secondly I grabbed the play station, the games and the controllers put it in my bag and walked down to the local cash converters. SOLD

But the big ticket item was putting my car up for sale. I hated driving, it stressed me no end (Sorry Sydney!!) I thought if I really need one, I could hire a car (as the cost savings of no insurance, petrol servicing etc alone) would justify it.

But so far the freedom of walking, use of public transport, seeing the world with my own eyes instead of behind a steering wheel has been exhilarating. I have not had my car since January 2018.

I’m not a minimalist yet, its a gradual journey, I am a work in progress. But to come home now without the distractions bought me back my creative mind. Instead of Netflix, I have read 13 books so far (I previously would not read one a year), inspired by multiple bloggers each night, more productive and has allowed me to gradually change my mindset.

What it has ultimately done is to give me this give. My first blog on my own site illblogmyownway.com. I now cook for the love of it, I have just completed an eight week beginners French language course. I have created time. Time to do the things I love. Because the gift of the path to minimalism, is the gift of time to do the things you love.

Thanking you for reading this blog. I plan to write many more, combining my love of travel , food & wine, my journey and my views on topics of interest.

All the best

Drobba

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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