The Year that has been

To achieve what I have achieved this year and set out to do has been a ride that I would go on again and again…..

IM BACK……….

My apologies for this long hiatus!!! Have I stories to tell and it all revolved around breaking my phone in September this year. It was supposed to be my next blog, I had taken all these beautiful photos on my phone when tragedy struck. I fell of a tour boat into the water stone cold sober as a judge!!!! APPLE I PHONE 6s GONNNNEEEEEE!!!!!

What a debacle it has been, I know utilise the Apple I phone 4 kindly given to me by my sister, but really its about as useful as a Nokia now.

But there is a silver lining to this, guess what I survived without my usual apps that I had and my constant links to Social Media like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter etc. And you know what its great because now guess what???? People have to call me and text me and I have to do the same and quite frankly I think that’s great. I feel like I have reconnected instead of being disconnected. Long story short I survived and you can too.

Which got me thinking…….

What a year and journey its been so far. Who would have thought just in myself that I would have survived without a TV, a Car, my PlayStation etc. Its been a wonderful journey, I’m now up to my 35th Book, my dream board taps me on the shoulder each day to remind me what’s great about having not just one dream, but a 100 of them, I’ve travelled, and I feel like my greatest achievement this year is the personal growth and reconnection to the world around me.

This blog has been wonderful, it has allowed me to do many things, become much more open and honest about my feelings, I’ve inspired a couple of people to also make changes and create dream boards and also the gift of writing and publishing and sharing that with an audience.

It has also allowed me to connect with other bloggers with a much bigger audience than me who actually follow me also, it’s an amazing feeling. I said to a friend today that I feel this year has set me up to just explode next year with a new-found impetus. It has helped me to develop the confidence to challenge the status quo and give others that confidence also.

And lastly on reflection it has made me more positive over the course of time. I have had some dark periods which were reflected in some of my blogs but from those dark times I feel I grew exponentially on a personal and professional level. I have also through this journey discovered other passions. For example bushwalking. What an awesome hobby its been, and I would encourage my followers and friends/family to join me. It’s so wonderful walking and observing the nature and splendour that is around us. And guess what??? ITS BLOODY FREE!.

It has allowed me to plan something that I have never done on my travels before. An organised walking tour of the Dolomites Mountain Region that runs through Italy and surrounding countries. I cant wait to achieve it, it’s a moderate 8 day walk and it’s just going to be spectacular.

Lastly its good to be back, I hope you have enjoyed my story so far because I have enjoyed sharing it. Its been a year of growth, but if you thought this year was good, next year will blow your mind.

Love You All

Tim x

The Feeling you get when you book you’re next trip

I wanted to write this short blog tonight of the feeling I get, and (hopefully you as well) when you book that next trip.

The immediate emotion is that you have now something to work towards and look forward too especially those Monday mornings when the weekend has finished and its back to the office.

Just last week I paid a deposit for an 8 night stay in a beautiful Tuscan Villa, in Lucca Tuscany, Italy for next July. I plan this to be the beginning of a substantial overseas trip next year and I cannot wait for this to occur. As well of the feeling of elation and happiness of having the trip locked in, It has also allowed me to set some financial goals of which I will have nearly a year to achieve it.

There is nothing like the feeling of booking you’re next trip, it’s so exciting and exhilarating. It’s now something to dream about, plan, and work towards knowing that  the best trip of a lifetime is coming up, some sacrifices need to be made along the way.

So for the best part of a year I will be working towards having the next life changing experience, with a few small taster’s along the way (short trips).

Now that I have booked mine, how about you book yours!!!! The joys of travel await you.

Why do we do the things we don’t want? But don’t do the things we want to?

“We only get one go at this”

This weeks blog is deeply personal, I am going to pour all my feelings out here. I am going through a difficult time at present. It’s a time of reassessment, validation, and contemplation. You see I am very different, and whilst everyone is different, I am even more.

I don’t conform, I question, I question a lot of things, not to be difficult, but its because I want to know the “WHY” in what we do. Whether this is work, relationships, life in general, family, etc. etc.

My Dream

See this is my dream, my dream ultimately, being 34 years of age, is to just sell up all that I own and travel, travel for as long as I can. Why? Because it is the only time I feel I can be truly me. But like most of us and my parents and their parents before us is that society does not permit this type of thinking. Because for me I don’t suit the traditional workplace, bound by an office chair, reporting to superiors, doing what they say without question.

I look outside each day and wonder why am I not out there but in here? What is my obligation? Why cant I be me? Why do I have to be someone else five days a week?

I have a mortgage, I have investment’s, and I’ve worked hard for those  and at 34 so far I have had a fantastic life. I have travelled to far away places, I have great friends an unbelievable family, so what is my issue?

My issue, is I can’t be me everyday. For five days out of seven, I have to be someone else, like the rest of us to survive I conform. So after all that I ask you these questions! Are you doing what you want to do? If not, why not? Why do you do what you don’t want to do? What’s the reason for that? Is it family, morals, upbringing, beliefs, fear, self-confidence? I know a few of them are my reasons.

I’ve struggled for sometime in seeking validation for my decisions. It’s no ones fault in particular, but I want to stop this habit. I can’t describe the feeling only that its like a “ball and chain”. I can move but not freely. So much resistance. I feel now is the time to break free from the “shackles”, live how I want to live, not conform, know that I don’t have too. Knowing there is a place in the world for everyone and that it doesn’t have to be where I am now.

So I’m a Minimilist……. What do I do NOW

So the initial shock has passed as you come home and the items that once consumed you are now gone…… NOW WHAT

That first week………

Or should I say day after i disposed of the TV and play station I must admit I said to myself WHAT NOW!!!!!

I remember lying on the couch for about 30 minutes just browsing on my phone. BUt thankfully it didnt take long to “SNAP” out of it and say to myself THIS IS NOT THE REASON I DID THIS!!!

I immediately got changed and went for an hour walk. I cleared my head and thought of ideas. Ideas of what I was going to replace my time with? Soon enough, I started to create a routine.

My Routine…. And it could be yours too

This is my routine in a round about way –

  • I get up at 5am, get changed and go for a walk in the morning. It immediately relaxes me and gets the brain going straight away. You wake up pretty quickly also as the body is moving.
  • I cook – not the quick 15 minute meals but I love dedicating the time to preparing really good food. For e.g I cooked a two kilo pork, roasted sweet potato, ‘Julien carrots, Asparagus marinated in olive oil and herbs (HUNGRY NOW?)
  • Whilst Ironing (which I unashamedly love doing LOL) I tune into my Tim Ferris podcasts at the same time.
  • Projects – Im currently finishing my ‘100 Dreams’ dream board which will fill the space where my TV was
  • THIS Blog instead of Netflix.

I think you get my point right now. I created time, time for the things I love doing (however boring to some people that may be), to be more productive with that time, and going to bed knowing that I have achieved some daily goals of mine.

It is not EASY…….

Now It may sound like I make this look easy…. ITS NOT. My biggest challenge is procrastination. I am a terrible procrastinator!!!!! But I continue to work on this over the last six months. The key has been a daily goals list, and also replacing my downtime with reading on my kindle and incorporating an activity whilst listening to a blog that I need to get done.

But my biggest achievement so far….

Is MINDSET!!!! Changing the way I think, always telling myself what I can get out of today? (Six months ago I probably would not have booked a spontaneous trip to Cairns for a weekend)

Lastly, If your’e thinking about making change, have a plan, and have a goal/s. It really is the key to your next journey. And last of all BE PATIENT, BE RESILIENT, AND STICK TO IT!!!!

Because the results are AMAZING.

My path to minimalism

Welcome to my first ever blog… One of my goals this year was to have my very own blog and here it is and I’m so excited by it. Please follow my Journey throughout and I hope you get some tips from me along the way as well as the honour on blogging my own way to the World.

How it all started –

My path to sorting out the “meat from the chaff” was with the unlikeliest of people! My financial advisor.

You see I came to him for budgeting advice, by the end of it I was on a path that I hope I never go back from. He told me a story of how he and his wife gave up TV and the internet for twelve months.

In the age of Netflix, Reality TV, Foxtel, YouTube, Facebook and Instagram I thought it was a brave move. But it got me thinking as behind it had a deeper meaning. This guy and his wife had a goal, they didn’t conform to the rest of society and were hell-bent on achieving that goal without these distractions.

It worked…… He and his wife achieved the goal they had set out to achieve twelve months prior through self education via blogs, reading books and attending every relevant seminar aligned to his goal at any given moment.

Then we went to my goals……

I had to change, I had goals that I wanted to achieve but I had to ask myself… What was I prepared to do to achieve them?

I could come home after work, lay on the couch, watch Netflix or play the PlayStation, eat some dinner, iron my shirt for the next day, go to bed and repeat.

But what was I achieving??

Nothing really, only Groundhog Day 2!!! You see this conversation propelled me to make some massive changes, to go against the grain, be non-conformist and that excited me!!

That day on a Saturday afternoon in December 2017 I put my TV on facebook marketplace. Within an hour it was gone…. (Too cheaply it turned out). Secondly I grabbed the play station, the games and the controllers put it in my bag and walked down to the local cash converters. SOLD

But the big ticket item was putting my car up for sale. I hated driving, it stressed me no end (Sorry Sydney!!) I thought if I really need one, I could hire a car (as the cost savings of no insurance, petrol servicing etc alone) would justify it.

But so far the freedom of walking, use of public transport, seeing the world with my own eyes instead of behind a steering wheel has been exhilarating. I have not had my car since January 2018.

I’m not a minimalist yet, its a gradual journey, I am a work in progress. But to come home now without the distractions bought me back my creative mind. Instead of Netflix, I have read 13 books so far (I previously would not read one a year), inspired by multiple bloggers each night, more productive and has allowed me to gradually change my mindset.

What it has ultimately done is to give me this give. My first blog on my own site illblogmyownway.com. I now cook for the love of it, I have just completed an eight week beginners French language course. I have created time. Time to do the things I love. Because the gift of the path to minimalism, is the gift of time to do the things you love.

Thanking you for reading this blog. I plan to write many more, combining my love of travel , food & wine, my journey and my views on topics of interest.

All the best

Drobba

Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton

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